Message-ID: <20810704.1075841641272.JavaMail.evans@thyme> Date: Sun, 21 Jan 2001 15:05:00 -0800 (PST) From: tracy.ngo@enron.com To: amy_lacy@hotmail.com, nicole.la@enron.com, carla.hoffman@enron.com, kate.symes@enron.com, vicky.ha@enron.com, angela.cadena@enron.com, laura.wente@enron.com, patricia.cini@enron.com Subject: Fwd: Fw: Prison Interviews - Serious Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-From: Tracy Ngo X-To: amy_lacy@hotmail.com, Nicole La, Carla Hoffman, Kate Symes, Vicky Ha, Angela Cadena, Laura Wente, Patricia Cini X-cc: X-bcc: X-Folder: \kate symes 6-27-02\Notes Folders\All documents X-Origin: SYMES-K X-FileName: kate symes 6-27-02.nsf cautionary words - fyi. ---------------------- Forwarded by Tracy Ngo/PDX/ECT on 01/21/2001 11:10 PM --------------------------- "sarah yu" on 01/19/2001 03:47:42 PM To: sharonwongyu@yahoo.com, ckhvang@soes.com, tly@furnitureforbusiness.com, DNMcAlexander@hotmail.com, jbnguyen@us.ibm.com, Tracy.Ngo@enron.com, christina.son@halliburton.com, abbyg29@hotmail.com, sonjacki@hotmail.com cc: Subject: Fwd: Fw: Prison Interviews - Serious >>Subject: Prison Interviews - Serious >> >> >> > Please read all of this. It could save you or someone you love. >> > >> > Interview of rapists and date rapists in prison on what they look for >>and >> > here's some interesting facts: >> > >> > >The #1 thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are >>most >> > likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other >>hairstyle >> > that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman >>with >> > long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. >> > >> > The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women >>who's >> > clothing is easy to remove quickly. The #1 outfit they look for is >>overalls >> > because many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing and on >>overalls >> > the straps can be easily cut. >> > >> > They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their >>purse >> > or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and >>can >> > be easily overpowered. >> > >> > >The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in >>the >> > early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m. The number one place women are >> > abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is >> > office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms. >> > >> > The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and >> > quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry >>about >> > getting caught. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries >>a >>3-5 >> > year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. >> > >> > If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because >>it >> > only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you >>isn't >> > worth it because it will be time-consuming. >> > >> > These men said they will not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other >> > similar objects that can be used from a distance, in >> > >their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really >>close >> > to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea >> > is to convince these guys you're not worth it. Several defense >>mechanisms >>he >> > taught us are: >> > >> > >* If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or >>with >>you >> > in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a >>question, >> > like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it >>is >>so >> > cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face >>and >> > could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target. >> > >> > >* If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you >>and >> > yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man >> > talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that >>she >> > would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY >> > target. >> > >> > If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it >>and >> > carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and >> > holding it out will be a deterrent. >> > >> > >* If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can >>by >> > outsmarting them. If they grab your wrist, pull your >> > wrist back so your hand is in waving position (palm facing forward) and >> > twist it toward yourself and pull your arm away. It is hard to hold >>onto >> > wrist bones that are moving in that way. They stumble toward you and >>you >> > stumble back, so you can use that momentum to bring the same out and >> > backhand them with your knuckles in the forehead, nose or teeth. >> > >> > >* If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker >> > either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or >> > in the upper inner thigh HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught >>told >>him >> > she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her >>and >>was >> > so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the >>guy >> > needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you >>can >> > stand it; it hurts. >> > >> > >* After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a >> > particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's balls >> > (sorry to be graphic)it is extremely painful. You might think that >>you'll >> > piss the guy off and make him want to hurt you more, but >> > the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman >>who >> > will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of >> > there. >> > >> > >* When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers >>and >> > bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on >>them >> > as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, >>and >> > ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly. >> > >> > >Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of >>your >> > surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if >> > you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You >>may >> > feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy >>really >> > was trouble. >> > >> > >Please forward this to any woman you know, it's simple stuff that >>could >> > save her life. >> > >> > _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com